Saturday, July 28, 2012

The Number

"She said she's only fuck bout four or five niggas, so you know you gotta multiply by three." - J.Cole

Generally speaking, men are obsessed with numbers. Horse power, salary and the size of our dicks. Maybe porn has something to do with the latter bit. I'd like to think it's out of evolutionary necessity. The most important numbers as it relates to romantic relationships are her numbers.
The topic came up recently at a guys only meeting. The kind where we discuss man business at a bar or man cave. Although with the advent of smart phones guys only meetings increasingly occur in group chats. (shout out to the Wolf Pack!) Most of the guys in the chat had a problem if her numbers were too high.
The answers varied from her being a reflection of her partner to the male ego and even out right chauvinism. A few made valid points about contracting an STD. STDs aside, though they can't be taking lightly, men need their phallus shaped egos stroked. Even the most liberal among us men need our ego rubbed and tugged by a nice soft hand ever so often.
Humans, want to believe that only one person can satisfy our emotional needs. To a greater extent we want to believe only one person for our entire adult lives can satisfy our sexual urges. So in turn if her number is too "high" men, generally speaking, may be deterred. He may even label her a hoe for seeking sexual satisfaction with multiple men.
Thing is we are all highly sexual beings! Hell, while writing this blog I've masturbated twice! To think that we were made to be with only one person our entire lives is against human nature. I'm not talking about polygamy but polyamory. Sorry, that is a blog for another day.
To be clear, men, western culture is no longer a culture in which women live in sexual conservatism but of sexual liberation. That dick may be good but others have made her toes curl as well And vice versa. Be mindful of STD's but also know that the world our parents once lived in is now a brave new world.
I hoped you picked up on the double entendre in the aforementioned sentence...yeah, just stroking my ego.